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Come Together

The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections

by Emily Nagoski, PhD
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • From the author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout comes an illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship.
“Emily Nagoski is a national treasure—helping us all understand how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives.”—Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed
In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, revolutionized the way we think about women’s sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships. 
Most of us struggle at some point to maintain a sexual connection with our partner/s or spouse. And many of us are given not-very-good advice on what to do about it. In this book, Nagoski dispels the myths we’ve been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.
So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them. You’ll learn:
• that “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades
• vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found
• how to understand your own and your partner’s “emotional floorplan,” so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind
Written with scientific rigor, humor, and compassion, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.

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    January 30, 2024

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    • OverDrive Read

      • ISBN: 9780593500842

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      • ISBN: 9780593500842
      • File size: 13490 KB

  • Languages

    • English

  • Reviews

    • Publisher's Weekly

      Starred review from November 27, 2023
      “Solving sex problems isn’t all therapy and feelings,” stresses sex educator Nagoski in her empowering and pragmatic follow-up to 2014’s Come as You Are. Writing that long-term sexual satisfaction relies less on a “spark” than fostering a “context that makes it easier to access pleasure,” Nagoski focuses on such practical tools as creating “mental floorplans” to map out emotional states and how to navigate through them to reach “a sexy state of mind.” Elsewhere, she explains how to have constructive conversations about “old sexual hurts” that inflict present-day pain (for example, if a partner has received a nasty remark about their “body, sexual history, or ability to give or receive pleasure”) and offers tips for prioritizing sensory pleasure over desire. Nagoski’s prose is spry and inviting as she marshals research and anecdotes (many featuring nonbinary couples) to dispel notions of “normal” sex, ban sexual expectations and judgments, and advocate “liv with confidence and joy” in one’s body. It’s a valuable resource for anyone looking to spruce up a subpar sex life or make a good one better.

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